As they say, hindsight is 20/20. Take advantage of a bit of my hindsight by learning a few things I wish I knew before I started home schooling my special needs children . . .
- Many days are as hard as I feared they would be, but they are outweighed by the wonderful way we do life together. It will always be a difficult choice to home school. On days when I wonder if sending my boys to school would be better for them or me, I remember all we would lose by not learning and growing together. So far, that has been more than enough to keep us on this path.
Many days are as hard as I feared they would be, but they are outweighed by the wonderful way we do life… Click To Tweet
- I don’t have to argue with or try to convince people who question my decision to home school. Doing it well, wholeheartedly, and openly, eventually silences the critics.
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- Most other parents, doctors, and therapists in these trenches are amazing, inspirational people. They will help you, listen to you, and inspire you with all that they do each day. I am thankful for those in the home school trenches with me! The battle in the home school trenches is difficult, but the rewards are inestimable. The admission price to this club is steep, but the rewards are inestimable.
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- Nurturing my marriage is critical to successful home schooling. The more unified, mutually supportive, and loving that our marriage is, the more our children learn, feel secure, and thrive. Time devoted to our marriage is not a detriment to home schooling, but an investment in it.
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- Rest and recreation are great helps in home schooling. Are my children battling me over schoolwork? Would I rather scrub the bathroom with a toothbrush than face one more day of school? This is a sign that we need rest and recreation. Many discipline problems and poor attitudes have been vanquished by a nap, field trip day, or a day off. It is amazing how much more we accomplish by taking a quick break before returning to school, instead of slugging through our misery.
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- I will never have it all together for any long period of time and that’s okay. This is a bitter pill for a recovering perfectionist like me. Loving my family, putting relationship with Christ and others first, will always mean interruptions and distractions to my schedule. Maintaining a reasonable order to our life is better than appeasing my inner tyrant’s demands that all facets of our life must be running seamlessly.
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- God calls me to show love to and accept my children even if they are never able to _______. This blank can be filled with whatever we are struggling with at the time. My children need me to be content and grateful with what they are able to do (or unable to do!) so they can learn to do the same. Their struggles and limitations will always tempt them to despair or give up. I add to their burden if I am discontented or frustrated. When I seek and accept God’s design and purpose for my children, I can help them grow and discover those things with joy.
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- Ask for help and be humble about my need for it. Home schooling moms can believe the lie that they should be able handle everything alone. This is a fast road to burnout. Use all available help to maintain a peaceful home, heart, and family. Although others might praise us for being able to “do it all,” that praise is a fleeting satisfaction. A richer life is interconnected–giving and receiving, and helps us make it for the long haul.
While others might praise us for being able to “do it all,” that praise is a fleeting satisfaction. Click To Tweet
- I will always wonder if I am doing “enough.” This might be the perpetual nemesis of every home schooling mother. Having children with additional challenges and needs often compounds this worry. Rather than trying to answer this unknowable question, I have learned to accept that I am not ever doing “enough.” Moreover, it is not my job to be “enough” for my children. That job belongs to God alone. I am only one of His provisions in their lives. Others can and will shape my children. Opportunities will arise for them that I did not orchestrate. Relationships will be formed without my intervention. I do my best when I trust all these things to our loving Father.
It is not my job to be “enough” for my children. That job belongs to God alone. #homeschool… Click To Tweet
- God is enough. This is even true when nothing seems to be going right, I am failing, my children aren’t progressing like they “should,” or I am feeling scared about the future. I knew this before, but I have experienced this reality in new and deeper ways as a special needs home school mom. Coming to terms with this final revelation has enriched my life and relationships more than any of the other items listed above, and it has been the greatest lesson I have learned while home schooling.
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Discovering and knowing these 10 things gives me freedom to teach and love my children with joy. The freedom to teach my children at home legally without restriction did not come without a fight. Have you heard the history of home schooling in Texas? I am so thankful to the Texas Home School Coalition for Keeping Texas Families Free!